Have you seen the TV show The Bear?
Lauren and I watched it on an iPhone while swanning around Mexico last year.
The show charts the chaos & mayhem in a Chicago restaurant.
And mainly in the kitchen, where the atmosphere is so frenzied & pressurised that we see chefs screaming in each other’s faces over boiling pots & pans, another chef vomiting in the kitchen yard at the end of a night’s
service and, in one episode, a chef accidentally stabbing another chef in the buttocks with a kitchen knife.
Getting skewered in the tushie certainly puts a whole new spin on the phrase “back-of-house drama”!
Anyway...
All this begs the question:
Why do chefs put themselves through the ringer like this?
The answer comes from head chef Carmy.
Carmy’s already done his hard yards in Michelin starred kitchens. He’s got experience & perspective which the junior chefs don’t have.
He knows chefs push themselves to the limit because they love to care for other people through food.
Carmy puts it like this:
“Chefs always say that a large part of being a chef is looking
after people”
He then goes on to say:
“But you gotta look after yourself first”
Wise words indeed.
See, I’ve noticed a common belief that the way to look after people is through selflessness and self-sacrifice. By putting them before you.
On the face of it, this makes
sense.
But dig a little deeper and this whole idea unwinds pretty quickly.
In a nutshell:
If you’re running on fumes, grumpy, off-balance and stressed you’re not going to be in a position to give the best of you to others.
You’re not going to be there for your family, partner or friends like you would if you’re coming from a place of calm, rest, peace and balance.
It’s why chirpy air stewardesses tell plane passengers to secure their own oxygen mask before helping their neighbours if there’s an emergency onboard.
(fat lot of good you can do for anyone else if you’ve conked out in your seat!)
And it's exactly the same when it comes to life at home.
The way to care for your loved ones is to care for yourself first.
I know this might sound “selfish”.
But this sort of selfish is one of the most selfless, kind & generous choices you can make. Putting yourself first allows you to be there for other people in the best possible way.
The way to put yourself first?
By investing in your own wellbeing & happiness. It becomes an investment in the wellbeing & happiness of your friends and family too.
I
don’t mean finding an hour for a massage or a trip to the spa.
These are all well & good if you want a quick pick-me-up. But quick pick-me-ups only last so long.
Instead, I mean seeing how you can tap into your
innate wellbeing & happiness whenever you want, so that your happiness & wellbeing ultimately permeates every single aspect of your life.
The way to do this is to explore where wellbeing & happiness really come from and what they really are.
And if you find yourself always putting other people first and feeling fed up & miserable as a result, you might like to consider teaming up with me.
Through coaching, I can point you towards the source of your own wellbeing and happiness. Once you start to tap into this, you simply won’t be able to not share
it with your loved ones.
On 11th March at 5pm UK time, I’m increasing the price of my 3 session coaching package from £150 to £500.
That’s just over nine hours from now.
So if you’d like to take advantage of this no-brainer price, the timer’s about to buzz.
Whisk your way over here to get the scoop:
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That’s all for today.
- Tom