The last couple of days, I’ve published parts 1 & 2 of my interview with newsletter subscriber Khe Hy.

Khe was 31 when he became one of Blackrock's youngest ever MDs. A couple of years later, Khe realised he was climbing a ladder propped up against the wrong wall and quit his high-flying Wall Street career to forge his own path. 

Khe's now known as the Oprah for Millennials.

If you’re interested in topics like success, status and the hustle & grind, I think you’ll dig what Khe has to say.

Here’s the third and final part of the interview:

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Tom: I read another interview of yours where you said “I don’t need more money, I need more peace.” What are the biggest threats to your peace today?

Khe: A lot of the things I mentioned earlier, like wanting my net worth to go up, even though I know it shouldn’t matter. There are moments where my net worth feels tied to my self-worth. I’m competitive. I want to feel like I’m doing well.

There’s a game to it, and I want to win.

There’s the hair and just being at peace with things I can’t control. Difficult relationships. Loss. I’ve lost five people very close to me. Grief, and knowing there’s more loss to come.

Even stuff with my daughters. I have two girls entering preteen years and it’s not the cute little baby stuff anymore. I know there’ll be bumps in the road.

I have practices. I know myself. I’m clear on my values and how I want to show up. But that doesn’t mean those things aren’t threats to my peace.

Tom: You built your newsletter RadReads slowly, almost by accident. What’s your take on the idea that purpose finds you rather than the other way around?

Khe: I believe purpose is emergent.

There’s an author, Jordan Grumet, who talks about “little-p purpose” and “big-P Purpose.” People think big-P is something like eradicating polio or building the next unicorn. But I think it’s more about little-p purpose. It’s emergent.

That’s why I follow aliveness.

Right now, I’m really interested in AI. It’s a cool problem. There are interesting opportunities. People need to understand how to use it. I think it can help people achieve freedom and aliveness, whether through entrepreneurship, creativity, brainstorming, or just having a collaborative thinking partner.

I’m following it because it feels alive. Sometimes the switch flips and I think, “Oh, I’m gonna make a lot of money doing this.” Then I remind myself: why? Just to watch a number go up? Who cares? You’re already the dad you want to be. You’re healthy. You’re a loving husband. You’re serving your mission.

I also think when people try too hard to find purpose, it’s like telling yourself “I have to take a nap”. You put so much pressure on it that you end up obscuring it.

Tom: What role does work play in your life today?

Khe: I still do a decent amount of it. I think of work as time in front of a computer that’s not leisurely. But it feels like play.

I probably work four to six hours a day. I have very clear constraints.

I won’t work with assholes. I won’t be subject to someone else’s calendar. I won’t work on things that don’t align with my mission which is to help people deepen their introspection and self-awareness.

There’s a certain amount of money I want to make. Not huge, not little. That’s what I’m striving for.

Tom: Where can readers go to find you?

Khe: Check out my podcast The Examined Life and my weekly newsletter RadReads at https://newsletter.radreads.co

You can connect with me on socials here too:

https://twitter.com/khemaridh

http://instagram.com/radreadsco

https://www.linkedin.com/in/khehy/

https://khemaridh.substack.com/

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That brings us to the end of the interview.

Thank you, Khe, for sharing your hard won wisdom.

Tomorrow, something completely different.