I've got into a bit of a morning routine recently.

Baby Grundy stirs from her slumbers at 7am. That’s when we totter down Fort Grundy's winding stone staircase and head to the kitchen for eggs, porridge and coffee.

Once I’ve satisfied my rumbling tummy, the next stop is the lounging chamber where I dish out a bottle of milk to Baby Grundy while I fire up the TV and press play on Couples Therapy.

I love this show.

If you haven’t seen it, it's basically a fly-on-the-wall documentary following real couples in therapy.

What Baby Grundy makes of the domestic ding-dongs I have no idea.

But I find the detective work fascinating.

(and yes, part of me also enjoys being nosy and peeking into other people's relationships)

Anyway, I’ve noticed something odd since I started this morning routine:

I’ve been flatter and grumpier than usual. 

Nothing wrong with this of course. Life’s like that sometimes.

But a couple of days ago I realised that this flat, grumpy feeling started at EXACTLY the same time I started watching Couples Therapy.

And I think I know why.

I'm noticing things I’ve never thought about before.

Watching Couples Therapy is like being given a masterclass in "here are all the ways a relationship can go wrong” and "here are all the deep-seated personal issues you might be lugging round without even realising it".

I don't know if that sounds strange or not. 

But I'll never forget one sentence which Big Tony Robbins hammered home when I took part in his four day personal development extravaganza Unleash the Power Within:

"Where focus goes, energy flows"

I think there’s a lot of truth in that.

If I'm spending 20 mins every morning soaking up relationship problems and other people's personal baggage, it's no surprise that I might start “finding” similar issues in my own life.

Stare at the cracks long enough and you start seeing them everywhere. 

Even in things that are perfectly solid!

This is why my coaching has nothing to do with digging up your past and poking at psychological scabs to see what oozes out. Nor am I interested in picking away at tiny cracks in the plaster until the whole wall comes tumbling down.

I'd rather help you sketch out what kind of castle you want to build, then help you build it.

What would feel thrilling? What have you quietly wanted for years but never dared to say out loud? What would make you bounce out of bed in the morning? 

(I don’t recommend Couples Therapy for the last one)

If you have dreams you'd love to go after or you’d like to feel more alive, aligned and lit up by your day, you can read more about my coaching here:

https://waitinglist.followingfulfilment.com