One Saturday night a little while ago, Lauren and I ordered a Thai takeaway.

As I hit the order button, Deliveroo showed the crispy squid, pad thai and massaman curry would take 20 minutes to arrive. 

Very quick, I thought.

But when I glanced at the app 5 minutes later, the delivery time had shot up to 45 minutes!

I wasn’t a happy bunny.

Now, you might nod your head in sympathy or you might tut-tut at my impatience.

But either way, I’m sure you’ll agree this is a fairly typical First World Problem. The kind of problem that some people would classify as trivial or not even a problem at all.

Another example of this?

What I call Inner Dilemmas.

These aren’t “physical” first world problems like getting stroppy because your iPhone won't connect to the WiFi or finding nothing to wear even though you have a wardrobe full of clothes.

Inner Dilemmas are more subtle.

For instance:

Feeling as if you’re not fulfilling your potential.

Or feeling a separation between where you are in life and where you want to be, feeling like you’re being carried along rather than creating your own life or knowing you have a great life on paper but still feeling like something’s missing.

These dilemmas so far removed from the physical world that you might feel guilty having them, let alone talking about them.

Not just because you think your friend or partner may not understand what you’re on about.

But because they might even shame or guilt-trip you by claiming your dilemma isn’t really a problem and you should be grateful for what you’ve got.

This is why people don’t talk about these sorts of dilemmas.

And yet these dilemmas are still very real, acute and deeply-felt. 

I know them intimately myself.

I know they’re the sort of dilemmas that slowly eat away at you. I know they're tempting to ignore but, when you do, they spring back up with twice the force.

I also know they’re the sorts of dilemmas which feel unsolvable.

But the good news is that Inner Dilemmas can be solved.

And the even better news is that you don’t need to rely on your Deliveroo driver to solve them. 

You can solve them yourself.

In fact, there’s no other way to solve them. They can only be solved by you.

That’s not to say other people can’t point you in the right direction.

I see this more clearly than I ever have now I’m coming out the other side of these sorts of dilemmas myself.

Which, I think, is a big benefit. After all, I’m not pretending I’m some sort of enlightened jedi master who lived with these dilemmas so long ago that I can’t relate to them or they don’t even look like dilemmas anymore.

These Inner Dilemmas are still fresh as a daisy for me. 

As are the solutions.

Solutions I can and will point you towards, if that’s what you’d like.

If so, I have an offer for you today.

If you have Inner Dilemmas and you’d like to move past them, I’m offering you a free, one hour Zoom call to explore and discover new perspectives on your Inner Dilemmas.

During our hour together I might ask you an occasional question.

If I have your permission, and I hear a direction worth pointing out to you, I might do that too.

But there won’t be any pressure or pitching. The call will be 100% for you.

If you’re interested, hit reply with “interested” and we'll take it from there.